30 Days

This is a post that might make some people uncomfortable, I will be talking about sex. By sex I mean my sex life with my husband pre-baby and post baby. With everything out there so to speak. So if these previous sentences have made you uncomfortable stop reading now (Aunt Doll this means you, not that I care if you read on)In the beginning it was like all new things you just can't get enough even through the rough patches in the beginning. Lets just say my husband had the patience of a saint when it came to wooing me. Then we moved in together a year later and things were still hot and heavy, but once a bout six months had passed of living together (which coincided with his college graduation, a large move, and him starting his career) the sex began to dwindle. I mean not to the point of I am going blind here but a decrease none the less. Then we became comfortable in a routine of jobs, trying to have a social life, and all the little things that life throws at you, that sex got put on the back burner almost to the point of I am going blind here. Then we moved again when our lease was up and Casey changed companies and things began to improve. When he got laid off four months later (what a coincidence when Ian was conceived) things really picked up (I don't know how they did though I was working 2 jobs and a full time student at the time). Then my husband with his saint like patience again got basically shunned like a leaper I can count on one hand the number of times we had sex while I was pregnant. Then after the mandatory recovery period things began to heat up again. Then Casey got laid off yet again, we had a new baby and going back to work being a sane woman and what happened the last time he got laid off I hid from husband (joking kind of). Then he got a job 2 months later, I started staying at home and Ian started sleeping through the night (most of the time) so things started to pick back up. Well last night Casey and I were conversing about our sex life and he made the comment how come we don't have sex more often ( I had been having the same thought). That is when we decide that for the next 30 days we are going to have sex everyday. So now away we go, we can and will succeed.

*Prior to this agreement we have been avg. once a week.

Wordless Wednesday

Take me back Tuesday

In my high school the juniors held prom for the seniors, so as class fundraiser we had a donkey basketball game. I was one of the juniors chosen to play. The game was juniors and staff vs. sophomores and seniors. I remember that my best friend Lou was also chosen to play (sadly I do not have a picture on my computer of her outfit). I do remember that she wore her dum-dums t shirt (that the summer before she saved wrappers to get). If you think my out fit is crazy the funny thing is mine wasn't the most over the top there. You know I don't remember who won or lost but I do remember that I had a lot of fun, my mother embrassed the crap out of me before the game, the guy I was dating at the time was there, and my dad embrassed me and Lou after the game (but I can't rememer how, do you Lou?).

Manic Monday

I woke up this morning with a bad case of the Monday's, just like Garfield used to have. I just felt like I couldn't get out of bed but alas there was no reason to feel this way. I just wanted to sleep the day away, but that idea quickly got nixed by Ian who demanded to be changed and fed. There was no cute baby noise to wake up to this morning but screaming crying angry baby is what I got and at 5:45 none the less. Casey decided that yesterday he would spend the day with Ian and I could go and have some baby free time, which I jumped on. When I came home at 7 pm I asked how he napped and Casey answered he didn't. Great I thought tomorrow is going to be fun. And it was all morning he was cranky and fussy, maybe he was having a case of the Monday's too. The day did begin to get better though when Gabe showed up and took him of my hands long enough for me to get myself cleaned up and some laundry going. Then later Abby came by too. I can't thank these too enough for how they help me keep what little sanity I have left. When he finally did go down for a nap it was on Gabe's chest for two hours, which he was ok with cause he napped too. That is when this Manic Monday finally began to improve I was able to get some things done. The best part is when Lou L. texted me back, she is my best friend and 15 weeks pregant and also has an almost 2 year old, so she is a little tough to get a hold of at times ( which is understandable). Then Casey came home and I made dinner which he didn't like so that kinda hurt it si the first thing I have made he didn't like. And after dinner while walking foot one of our neighbors yelled at me for walking across her grass, which isn't hers to begin with we live in a townhome complex where everyone rents, where all foot did was pee. So now that I cleansed myself of this bad day by writing about it and doing some yoga, I am going to go to bed and wake with a better mood tomorrow. All photo's expect the last are from a bbq a few weeks ago we had at our house and were take by Bethany Hubbard.

Better late then never

Wordless Wednesday

My must haves and a few questions

I know every new mother with a blog does a baby product reviews, well I am doing one too but a little different. I am starting it out with a few questions to your veteran moms/dads that have been there done that.

1: How often do/did change your baby's crib sheet (if it wasn't a necessary change)?


2: If you were a Formula Feeder, what kind of bottles did you use and when did you start to transition to a sippy cup?


3: What is/was your child's nap/bedtime routine?


4: How did you and your SO keep things even (ex: changing diapers, bottles, etc...)?


5: If you cloth diaper do you prefer all in ones or prefolds and covers?

Enough with the questions how about a few of the gizmos and gadgets that make my life easier.

• The Captain's Chair (AKA: Exersaucer:) It has been a godsend in the afternoons I put the TV on PBS Sprout or just plain old PBS and Mr. Ian goes to town between the toys and the TV.
  
• My carriers (Ergo, Ellaroo's Mei Hip Carrier): When he is in a mood and wants to be held or FootFoot has to go. It is so nice to be able to just wear him to get things done.
  
• Travel System(Graco) : In the beginning we used the carriage almost every time we went somewhere and now I use the stroller 3-5 times a week.
  
• Pacifiers: This one is self explanatory.
• Soothies: These are the little blankets that one side is a silk like material and one is fleece. Ian loves these he uses one to go to sleep.
  
• Swing (Fisher Price Rainforest Cradle Swing and Graco Pooh Bear): Ian basically lived in his the first 6 weeks and he still naps in them from time to time.
• Couch: We have a a loveseat in Ian's room instead of a glider (that is downstairs) it was a lifesaver for middle of the night feeds.

Then there are the things that are nice to have but not necessary, there too many to list them all so I am going to only list a few.

• Boppy: Even if breastfeeding a regular pillow will do the trick.
  
• Bouncer: Ian only liked his for about a month.
  
• Diaper Pail: To be honest a lidded trashcan will do the same thing and it is alot cheaper.
• Pack and Plays: We have only used ours when we got FIL which to be honest Ian could sleep in the bed with us if necessary, when traveling.
  

Then there are the absolutely useless items, this list could also be long but I have narrowed it down to the ones that annoyed me the most once I firgured out they were useless.

• Crib Set: They can't ussed the comforter for a long time, bumpers just make changing the sheet harder.
  
• Diaper Bags: I figured out tote bags of varying sizes work better and have more options when it comes to looks.
  
• Security blankets: My child hated being swaddled, so they became burp clothes which I had way to many.
  
• Shoes: I like baby shoes they are cute but he never really wore them.
  
• Scratch Mittens: Baby socks do the same thing and have a dual purpose.

Also I am/ have been working on a Q and A post so my readers can get to know me better so please leave your question in the comments.

Men Babywearing

I wanted to thank my wonderful friend Gabe. Every time I feeling a little blue he is the first friend to show up and try to help me get things done. Today when trying to help me get my dishes done Ian woke up from his nap and I was in the middle of a task I could not stop so he picked him and started wearing him so he could finish the task at hand. This is not the first time he has done this. The other day I had to run to the store while he was over and when I came back he was walking foot while wearing Ian. I don't think I could have gotten any luckier when it comes to friends.

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Country Girl in the City

dos-si-er :
noun a collection of documents about a particular person, event, or subject.

We've officially broken ground on the clubhouse over on Looking Glass Lane. First order of business: Identify ourselves, put all our hands into the circle, recite a chant that calls to the six-year-old in every woman, break, and get into some serious shenanigans out in the cyberverse. (top intro borrowed from Jen)


Country Girl in the City (AKA: Bobbi Janay)

Looking Glass Powers:
An uncanny ability to confuse people by just speaking her mind they hear my accent and assume she's is unintelligent, when in reality it is the exact opposite.(not saying she is a genius)

Dress-up Closet:
Resale shop jeans, they come already broke in
Her Favorite pair of old beat up cowboy boots
Flip Flops
Plenty of thrift store find t shirts
A plethora of baseball caps
A few dresses and heels to throw everybody off, that she can clean up.

Disguise:
A baseball cap paired with big sunglasses and a swipe of lip gloss and mascara. It makes it easier to go in unnoticed and surprise them with her charm and wit.

Go-To Gadget:
Her Blackberry
Ipod Mini (that's right a mini)

Vice:
Dairy Queen Ice Cream
Reading Playboy


Magic Potion:
Any Bottle of Wine (Prefers: Moscato, Pinot Noir, and Cab. Sauv.)
Diet Coke
Dunkin Donuts Coffee (Made in her own kitchen)

Battery-Recharge Hub (other than Looking Glass Lane, of course):
Her sons and husbands laughs
Hugs from anyone that she loves

Bratty Spoilers:
DQ Dilly Bars
Bad Movies

Owner's Manual:
What's that? This girl jumps in feet first and when up to her neck in trouble starts looking for direction where it can be found. Which is any where from Fantasy Books, wanted or unwanted advice from her love ones, to her Bible.

Weapon:
Her uncanny ability to find useless trivia to fit almost any occasion
Her almost always sunny outlook on everything


Nemesis:
Self Doubt
Bad Legs (hitting a tree when she was 17 and breaking both legs did nothing for her ability to move with grace)




How she gets to the Lane:
In her trusty Maroon Nissan Xterra with it is winking bumper, random stickers, and always a gas can in the cargo space.

Secret Ambition
To be a high school US history teacher. I want to help mold and shape America's future to love America's past.

Now that you have read mine check out some of the other ladies of Looking Glass Lane:

Morgan
Jen
Leigh
Ria
Jenn

Once you have checked those out for inspiration, go to Looking Glass Lane sign up and then write your own dos-si-er. Remember to have fun.

What a Week.

A bit of a free write to catch myself and you guys up.
This week has been an off week for me from the start. Last weekend Ian and I went to my Dad's for the weekend (no reason just to visit). And we ended up staying longer then expected, we planned. The plan was to come home on Sunday, we ended up coming home on Monday. While we were there my dad came down with a cold, luckily Ian and I didn't catch it. Once we got home after being gone on Monday our whole routine was thrown for a loop. I still feel like I am running behind, and to make matters worse lady time decided to show up on Tuesday. I am also excited for the dallas area blogher meet up tomorrow.

While at my dad's this weekend my dad taught Ian how ot stick out his tongue, what a great thing to teach him right? He also taught him how to dance when standing up, now this on the other hand is cute. While at my dad's Ian got to meet a horse for the first time, he wasn't scared he actually reached out and petted China.

Exciting new my Cousin Dusty's wife Whitney is in Labor with their son Jett as I type. I can't wait for him to get here. All that is left is Wyatt and Ian will have four cousins born with in a year of him.

On the sex front things seemed to be picking up and then I'll be damned if the batcave didn't close down for repairs on me. Shoot em I just want to be able to reunite with my husband.

So I some how managed to leave my phone charger at my dad's and he just put it in the mail to me today hopefully I will have it by monday.

So enough randomness here, post to look forward to in the next few weeks, operation office to den; my looking glass lane dossier; baby product reviews; and more adventures of my family.

Wordless Wednesday

A blast from the past. I was 19 when this picture was taken, I was about to enter the arena for the horsemanship portion of the Butterfield Stage Days Rodeo Queen competition. I didn't win but when I entered I didn't enter to win. First run-up gets a $300 gift certificate to the local western store and at the time I needed new clothes bad. I lost 60 lbs during my freshman year of college. Which I got and spent all in the matter of 45 minutes. So I hope everyone enjoy there Wednesday.